heres my lists How I rocked gray hair at 30 Gray hair at 30. The premature aging alarm bell, the societal beauty standard defiance, the moment you realize you’re “too young” for this much silver. Finding gray hairs in your 30s can feel like a personal aging betrayal, a premature surrender to the inevitable march … Read more
1. How I Discovered the $250 iPad Air Upgrade Might Be a Waste of Money My heart thumped seeing the shiny new iPad Air; it felt like the best one, the one I deserved. But wait, $250 more than the regular iPad? That’s a lot of pizza nights! I felt torn. Was I missing out … Read more
heres my lists How I spoke to 100 people with no prep Public speaking: for some, a thrill; for me, a cold sweat inducer. Then, the universe threw me a curveball – a request to speak to 100 people. Tomorrow. Topic? Vaguely defined. Prep time? Zero. My brain short-circuited. Panic mode: initiated. But cancellation wasn’t … Read more
heres my lists How I saved $1,000 with a $10 job A thousand dollars. Sounds like a fortune when you’re staring at a bank account that resembles a ghost town. My financial situation? Let’s just say “precarious” was an upgrade. Then, desperation met opportunity in the form of a $10-an-hour gig: dog walking. Ten bucks … Read more
heres my lists How I dated with zero confidence and won Dating with zero confidence? Sounds like the prelude to a rom-com disaster, right? Picture this: me, armed with the self-esteem of a damp sock, venturing into the dating world. My internal monologue was a symphony of “They’re too good for you,” “You’ll say something … Read more
heres my list How I got promoted with zero experience Promotions. The golden ticket, the career validation, the thing we all secretly (or not-so-secretly) crave. But experience? That pesky prerequisite often feels like a locked door. My situation? An internal promotion opportunity landed in my lap, practically begging for someone to step up. Problem? I … Read more
Shyness. Often perceived as a social deficit, a personality flaw, something to be overcome and eradicated. For years, I fought against my shyness, tried to force myself to be extroverted, felt like shyness was holding me back in life. Then, I realized something. Shyness…could be power. Instead of fighting my shyness, I learned to leverage … Read more
“Too nice” vibe. Often perceived as weak, pushover-ish, or easily taken advantage of. For years, I felt pressured to be more assertive, more demanding, more…less “nice.” My natural niceness felt like a social liability, something to overcome, not embrace. Then, I realized something. My “too nice” vibe…actually worked. Instead of suppressing my niceness, I embraced … Read more
“What if” spiral. The social anxiety thought loop from hell. “What if I say the wrong thing?” “What if they don’t like me?” “What if I make a fool of myself?” The “what if” spiral can trap you in a cycle of anxiety and prevent you from engaging socially altogether. Then, I discovered a “what … Read more
Script-free room owning. The public speaking Holy Grail for the socially anxious. Presenting without notes, speaking extemporaneously, engaging an audience without relying on a pre-written script – sounds terrifying, right? Then, I did it. Owned a room…without a script. And surprisingly, it was liberating. My strategy wasn’t about sudden improvisation skills, but about preparation, confidence … Read more